What this page is

• An explanation of terms, tone, and structure.
• A public reference for expectations and respectful approach.
• A way to reduce misunderstandings before anyone reaches out.

What this page is not

• Not “direct access” to MommyWantedNYC.
• Not a live proxy, negotiation channel, or implicit approval.
• Not a promise of availability, participation, or intimacy.

Core structure (simple)

• Seonbae (선배): caretaker/mentor role: sets structure, holds standards, corrects drift.
• Hoobae (후배): learner/charge role: follows guidelines, communicates honestly, maintains effort.
• Accountability: check-ins, tasks, routines, or training goals—kept realistic and agreed.
• Consistency: tone matters: polite, direct, and emotionally regulated.

Boundaries & expectations

• Respectful language; no pressure, coercion, or “testing limits.”
• Consent and limits are non-negotiable. “No” is final.
• Discretion by default. Do not overshare or demand personal details.
• Do not present public explanations as “authority” over private reality.

How to approach respectfully

• Lead with intent: why you’re reaching out and what you’re looking for.
• Offer structure: check-in style, task preferences, time boundaries.
• State limits clearly and calmly.
• Ask, don’t assume. Be prepared for “no” without argument.

Cultural context (and adaptation)

• Seonbae/hoobae is a Korean senior–junior relationship concept (school/work/social contexts).
• This site uses the concept as a respectful framework—not a claim of “authentic” cultural authority.
• The priority is ethical practice: consent, clarity, and boundaries.

Where to go next